This Brownstone song was all about people admitting to what they desire. A lot of times, many people actually go through the motions of “wanting something”. However, when it comes down to “wanting something”, they tend to defer. It is all about noting your desires and intentions up front. With that said, it seems to be best to make one’s intentions noted and your actions reflect it.
Still, if the person actually has told you and shown you, why inquire?
I am having a huge problem. For the past month, I’ve been miserable.
So my ex bf/ bf (I am snot sure what we are at this point) went back to his country because he was forced by his dad, and he didn’t get into the program he was supposed to get into here in the US. So, his only choice was to go back. Before he left I didn’t get the chance to see him he was so busy he didn’t even call me or anything obviously he was being distant. Why? I don’t know.
Thus, I broke up with him the same night of his flight
He texted me and said “do whatever you want”. I tried to talk to him and ask to work things out. Yet, it seemed he didn’t seem to want it anymore. We didn’t talk for a good while. Eventually, we started back talking. He told me he started working there now and because of his job he won’t be coming back to the US. Of course, this made me sad. This led to a conversation of us expressing our love for each other.
We both said we loved each other. Still, I ask if he wants a relationship. There is this usual answer he gives: “You know what I want”. Why can’t he tell me yes or no?
Answer:
He probably wants you to figure it out for yourself.
Even Homer Simpson knows better….
From his standpoint, he feels that you should already know what he “wants”. This is the thing with many men: we want you to actually figure out what are desires are from our actions. If he wants you, then he either already said it or shows it in his actions. If he doesn’t want you, or want to be with you, then he already noted that to you. With men (or at least the majority of us), our actions ARE our words.
You are honestly having trouble with the bigger issue: he is half a world away. Your relationship is possibly at its end and you are worried about whether he wants to be with you. Is there any consideration to whether or not he CAN be with you? Wanting to be with you is all interesting for the sake of inspiring others and looking like Noah and Allie. However, you have to realize the situation at hand: he is nowhere near you and won’t be around you any time soon.
So, it would be best to stop getting hung up on the “wanting to hear it from your mouth” issue with him. He probably doesn’t even understand why you are asking that question. His actions should show you where his heart is. Meanwhile, you should be more concerned with the fact that you both won’t be seeing each other soon. In this situation, don’t let the priority of the relationship falter to the self-induced priority of wanting him to verbally express the obvious.
The season has changed in your relationship. So, it is time to make your call because the leaves have begun to fall.
‘Nuff Said and ‘Nuff Respect!!!
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